HEALING PROCESS

Step 1: AWARENESS (pre-healing step)

1. recognize/acknowledge
2. accept (your own limitations / help…)
3. identify (roots, causes …)

Step 2: COMMITMENT (set your intention and resolve)

1. locate (seed, illusion …)
2. understand (what are the consequences, & what you need to adjust …)
3. solution/process (find the best options for you)

Step 3: INTEGRATE (do it!)

1. (take) full responsibility/ (self)forgiveness
2. engage the process (relax and release, cleanse, …)
3. evolve (strengthen, …)

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Healing is a holistic process, and very different from a simple symptom removal. Eliminating or suppressing symptoms is not the solution you need to recover from a physical or an emotional disorder. Treating only the consequences of an imbalance will never remove the roots of it, thus, the healing process is not complete. Unlike what we commonly think, catching a disease is not normal (even a simple cold), but a way for the body to tell us that something went wrong. It’s the same with an emotional problem. It’s our body-mind-spirit that tells us we lost connection with our authentic nature, and it’s time to make some changes in our life to remove this imbalance.

However, be aware that engaging in a holistic healing journey is not always easy. Some people find it difficult, especially when we have to cope with a reality we spent so much time to hide, or deny its very existence. It’s even harder when the emotional part arises. After we are disconnected from our authentic nature/soul/spirit, whatever the reasons were, reaching these levels in the process can be discouraging. Discriminating what is our ego and our true nature, identifying who we really are, connecting again with our higher Self is the goal of the holistic approach of healing, and its arduous aspect. The best thing we can do it’s to give time to ourselves, and trust the process.

Step 1: AWARENESS (pre-healing step)

One of the first steps in the process of healing is to develop awareness; awareness of the complexity of the body-mind-spirit constitution, awareness of old habits and recurrent patterns, awareness of your authentic nature…

1. recognize/acknowledge

Most of the time, we know when we have a problem. We feel the cold because we sneeze; we sense the fatigue due to the flue, the irritation caused by the stress level, the pain following a separation… Feeling it does not mean we acknowledge or recognize that we have to do something about it. In the holistic approach of healing, that’s the first step to climb on.

2- accept (your own limitations / help…)

Once we accepted we have a challenge (medical/physical or emotional), we have to accept the fact that it is only temporary, and it not defines ourselves. We also have to admit that we have some limitations, some blockages, sometimes self-inflicted, even expected or supposedly limits that we put on ourselves, often wrongly. We may too have to accept help from outside. We are not alone, and bigger the trauma is, the more support we need, from family, healers, experts, health practitioners, etc…

3. identify (roots, causes …)

Searching for the underlying causes/roots of a disease or an emotional suffering is the base of the holistic approach. Illness is viewed as a manifestation of a dysfunction of the whole person. Emotional or physical, it is crucial to explore the initiating causes of any disorder, which may include negative beliefs, old wounds, unresolved relationships, as well as lack of proper exercises, bad food habits, etc…

Step 2: COMMITMENT (set your intention and resolve)

Taking in our own hands our healing is a commitment. Intention is one of the critical steps to begin the holistic healing journey. It’s a state of mind formed around a purpose, to focus our energy towards a particular outcome.

1. locate (seed, illusion …)

As we found the causes/roots of our problem, we need to locate exactly where, how and when it occurs within the body. We need to listen to the body, sense and honour the discomfort, reminding ourselves it’s a potential. It is important not to suppress nor dissolve the sensations/feelings, but rather, accept them for what they are: a temporary experience, an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, a signal telling us that it’s time to make some changes in our life.

The ego with which we identify ourselves most of the time is not who we really are. Its best friend is the mind. Both form a couple that prevent awareness to arise. Moments like “peak experiences”, “ecstasy”, “enlightenment” or simply great clarity are when the ego-mind has somehow been put aside, and let our spirit/soul, our true nature able to speak. Holistic healing is about getting in touch with our Higher Self, connect with, and remember then who we really are. At that moment, we can see, deeply, truly, where the disconnection appeared, when the imbalance occurred, and what we need to do to harmonize ourselves.

2. understand (what are the consequences, & what you need to adjust …)

Now, we know the roots/sources of our ongoing problem(s). Once we recognize some of our beliefs are illusions, once we accept that a part of what we are at that very moment is the result of a conditioned mind, we can understand that the pain/the discomfort/the illness, in brief, what we are fighting against today, may have also build up conditioned behaviours, high protecting walls, unhealthy patterns… We need to determine, honestly, what conditionings, which behaviours result from the source of our current situation. Knowing that, we can at the same time know what we need to adjust. During the journey, before creating another level of programming (like “visualising the outcome”, which can create a further disconnection), we have to see ourselves interrupting the behaviours that have emanated from the roots of our actual situation. Then, we have to go to the primary sources, and make with time the changes we need to eradicate the roots. Finally, we make the adjustments we need in our life to avoid a repetition.

On a physical level, healing may involve a change in our diet, more rest or more physical activities, cutting the source of stress… On a more emotional/mental level (but all levels are working together!, which mean the following notions apply also for a physical health problem), healing involves taking full responsibilities of what happened, committing to the process 100%, releasing any habits/behaviour/persons/attitudes/etc that are preventing your wellbeing. It involves (self)discipline, forgiveness (of self and others), and accept fully what we can sense as the “new” me. Understanding who we are and why we are here, at that very moment, is part of the holistic healing process.

3. solution/process (find the best options for you)

Healing is facilitated or impeded by a myriad of things. The multiplicity of healing methods reflects just how complex we are. Doctors, nurses, therapists, or any other healing practitioners only facilitate the holistic process, but do not cause it. They can guide and help, but the real healer is the person himself. A strong desire of healing and a profound love toward oneself are essential to heal. Our desires create our lives; and love is the energy that makes things happens.

Healing is in part about opening ourselves to unlikely and unlimited possibilities, allowing ourselves to release fears and despair, accepting this expansion of awareness, and understand that the limitless possibilities for healing in itself facilitates healing. We have to believe. Healers and techniques serve only to remind us that we are already whole, worthy, and the disconnection that created the actual imbalance is only a temporary situation. The energy (of love) is already within us, we just have to surrender to it, and accept it. As every one of us is unique, each of us has to find the solution, the technique, the healer he/she trusts, and fully commit, integrating all aspects of the healing process in the daily life.

Step 3: INTEGRATE (do it!)

Integration is about aligning the newly discovered and redefined aspects of ourselves with the whole of our being. It doesn’t mean we are changing, it means we are becoming our authentic self, in its wholeness, by making some changes and adaptations in our life. The keys to integration are empowerment and consistency. Empowering the good, letting go what does not serve us anymore, in the light of what we learned. Being consistent is to be flexible enough to accept changes, but persistent regarding the goal, and the journey.

1. (take) full responsibility/ (self)forgiveness

I know it is sometimes difficult to think about illness or trauma as a consequence of our own behaviour. But it is. We create our physical and emotional condition. We are responsible of what’s happening to us, good or bad. We have to understand that diseases, discomfort, pain, are due to disharmony in some aspects of our state of being. As many medical systems said, the human body is design to function perfectly, and sicknesses are only the consequence of an imbalance we created. Taking full responsibility means we accept that fact, and we are willing to restore our body in its intended healthy condition. We see these imbalances and their consequences as an opportunity to learn, grow, and evolve. As we said earlier, healing involves an expansion of consciousness, and a new understanding, deeper, and more accurate, of who we are and why we are here, in this situation.

We are not victims. Even if at times we may feel like it because of one’s upbringing, of germs, of a tumour, we have to understand that blaming one or something else is not the solution. Healing requires taking full responsibility for what we encounter: that means you have the power to undo what you’ve done. As our awareness is fully awake, we understand how & why we arrive where we are today, we know our current limitations. We are willing to make some changes, accept help, and recognize that no one else is responsible for what is happening.

To be able to do so, we have to forgive. Forgive ourselves first, then others. We have to release our negative attachment to life events, to some beliefs, through forgiveness of ourselves and others. Self-forgiveness is often more difficult than forgiving others. It’s normal, as we need to question our own believes, our own convictions… We have to accept that in fact events are neutral. Our perception of events determines the meanings we give them, and thus, our responses to them. When someone behaves badly against us, we can choose how to react: let our emotions take over, or understand that his behaviour is the result of his own imbalance, fears or suffering, and forgive. Stress, for example, is only a resistance created by our responses, by our need to control, justify, understand… Learning not to judge events, people and situations is a great part of healing and forgiveness. It’s the right step towards true compassion.

2. engage the process (relax and release, cleanse, …)

Taking in account all of these points, it’s now time to fully integrate and engage the process in our life. One of the most important things to do is to relax, create a space and time where we can dig in without interruption, where we can be completely, totally involve into the healing journey. Time for ourselves. Changes have to be made in the daily routine, like new diet, proper exercises/activities, but also, and probably more importantly, our state of mind: the holistic healing process is not a pill you swallow and feel better. There is no shortcut, we need to engage fully, and probably make some “permanent” transformations. This is evolution: a gradual development of a situation, starting from where we are, with all we have, to reach eventually the next level.

Once we have chosen what works for us, designed our own process/steps/tools, we are ready to engage and integrate the healing process in our life. Why a state of deep relaxation is crucial? Because to control the mind, the body need to be steal, motionless, almost dormant. When we control the mind, we control the body, we control our own power. When the mind (and the ego) is put aside, our authentic self is able to control everything.

Another critical stage is the cleansing one, starting with the body, then the mind. We have to detoxify ourselves by removing any kind of toxins (food, environmental, unhealthy relationships, negative thoughts…).

3. evolve (strengthen, …)

When we begin to see ourselves differently, we start to experience life through this new filter, through our authentic nature, but old habits die hard. And with life challenging us on a daily basis, they will do their best to interfere again. To make sure our old ways of thinking will lose their hold over us, we need to continue practice and dedication. We have to remember where we came from, what we went through, and remind ourselves that obstacles are an opportunity to grow, and evolution never ends. That’s the beauty of it: it’s called spiritual path.